Dating on Instagram.
Posted by thebitterlemon
I recently got an iPhone, after being a Blackberry user for years (it’s about time, right?). Since making the switch, I’m really trying to embrace the world of apps, especially dating apps.
I’ve already tried Tinder, and within three minutes I managed to play with fire and get burned. I saw my crush’s picture, and made a complete fool out of myself when he told me he was seeing someone.
Although, I still haven’t figured out why he was on Tinder to begin with. Anyway, I deleted the app and have banished Tinder from my life.
I did, however, download a new app called Glimpse that works with users who want to date through Instagram. Glimpse claims to be the opposite of Tinder, because “Swiping is basic, anyway.” It pairs users based on pictures and common interests, not on looks alone.
What I love so far about Glimpse is its vast array of users from around the world. It’s so easy to chat with men in other countries; places I’ve never even thought of. Plus, there are some really gorgeous pictures.
A few days after downloading Glimpse, I clicked that I liked a profile of a user named James. He appeared to be creative, and had a picture of himself playing guitar (love).
We got to chatting and clicked right away. He lives in North Carolina, and we messaged about life in the South, our work, and common interests.
After about a day, James was getting really flirty, which was cute, but I was cautious. He was quick to mention us meeting, so far as to discuss travel details.
“Let’s meet in Kansas City for a weekend and drink beer,” he said. “And eat BBQ. I’ll gladly pay for the room. And the rental car.”
I’ve met up with people I’ve met online before, but it was a simple trip to the local coffee shop, during the day, with people around.
I’m open to meeting people, but I’m also not an idiot trying to get murdered.
I was short on answers, hoping James would get the hint. But the next day, he brought it up again, mentioning his high-end video equipment to “help me” with my vlogs.
Oh, hell no. It was time to set this creeper straight.
“I’m not really trying to get axed,” I told him, mentioning how creepy he sounded.
He apologized, and said he didn’t mean for it to come across that way. But then said he’d fly to Baton Rouge and meet me at a coffee shop if it made me feel more comfortable.
Hmmm, not really. Once a creeper, always a creeper — it seems to be the truth.
After that, there wasn’t much else to say. I’ll never really know what his intentions were, but there’s no way I was going to find out the hard way.
I’m still on Glimpse, but I haven’t gotten involved in many conversations since then.
I’m still not against online dating, or dating apps, as I think it’s good to put yourself out there in several ways. In any case, dating is difficult work.
Perhaps finding the perfect dating app is just as difficult as finding the perfect date. #ItsComplicated
Posted on April 8, 2015, in The Ingredients and tagged App, authors, beauty, breakups, college, college life, dating, drinking, ex boyfriends, first date, Holly A. Phillips, How to Make Lemonade, Instagram, life, love, relationships, sex, single, social media, The Bitter Lemon, twenty-something, writing. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.