#tb: dress the part.
The following was written in 2010; nothing has been changed. Like what you’ve read? Enjoy my #tb (throwback) blog series as I count down the days until my second book, How to Make Lemonade, is released on December 2nd!
DAY 8: DRESS THE PART
Thursday, April 29, 2010
I just got home from completing today’s task—purchasing a dress. But not just any dress, a dress to celebrate my newfound life as a single woman…a single and fabulous woman!
After yesterday’s difficult assignment, I was really looking forward to treating myself today. So I gave myself a budget and made a mental note of The Frisky’s rules for my dress—well, it had to be a dress, and it had to be brightly colored, and for those women who had an ex who hated her clothes? It was supposed to spite them.
I didn’t have that last issue, however I’ve had it before (“that’s too low cut, that’s too short, nice shoes…”), and it isn’t fun. We ladies just want to feel attractive and wanted by the man we love. Is that too much to ask?
With my latest ex, we didn’t often go many places where I could wear dresses, let alone a fun and flirty one. So I was on a mission to find a dress that would slap ALL of my exes in the face—but still get me out in public.
After trotting around the mall for three hours, I settled on the one pictured: a 2-in-1 dress from Express. The top is a gray jersey knit, the waist is a structured white band, and the bottom is a slight bubbled skirt (with pockets) in a bright summer yellow. I love it!
To be honest, I was looking for something a little more dressy, but this is a dress that can go either way. I bought an oversized black and clear crystal necklace and plan on pairing it with black or silver pumps—the highest ones in my closet.
Thanks to my bestie Angela, I had a gift card for a free bottle of perfume. What’s a better time than now? I know certain perfumes and colognes remind me of memories, and that’s the last thing I need. So I picked up the perfect scent for single women everywhere—Michael Kors “Very Hollywood.” And WHO is more Hollywood than me?
They say timing is everything, and that is something I’m learning more and more through each day of this process. Tomorrow night, I got invited to a girls night out, where tiny dresses are encouraged. I’ll most definitely be wearing my new dress and my new scent. From what I hear, many of the ladies are freshly single—how’s that for timing?
DAY 9: HIT THE BOOKS
Friday, April 30, 2010
Today is the day things change. As for my task, today I am supposed to read a book I loved. Now, as it is a Friday and I do work a 9-5 job (yes, I really do!), I have not had a chance to read a book today.
However, I did take the time to pick out the book I will read this weekend. The Frisky suggests a book from the younger years, like a Judy Blume or a Baby Sitter’s Club…God, I loved those! However, I don’t have those on my sophisticated bookshelf. So I think I’ll settle in with a good one by Aristotle…just kidding, that’s for you fellow English major beatnicks.
Anyway, there’s a slew of books I’ve read that I love. None of them are the greatest books ever written, nor are they intellectual, they just make me laugh—I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, The Average American Male, Chloe Does Yale, love love love them all!
But when I went to my bookshelf this morning, I came across one I read my freshman year of high school and loved it—Confessions of a Shopaholic by Sophie Kinsella.
I love her rationalizations about buying anything and everything she sees. But the best part of this book is the man in her life—while he supports her efforts to improve herself, he loves her unconditionally. Becky Bloomwood gives me hope that even if I don’t have all of my ducks in a row all the time—someone is still going to laugh with me and love me through the good and the bad.
Ever since I completed Day 7 and threw out The Stuff, I’m feeling better. I still have my moments, but I think the journey is getting a bit easier with each day.
When I go through a breakup, my mind does me a little favor and begins to fog over the happy memories I had. I woke up early this morning for one reason or another and tried to remember a moment I shared with my ex, but it was gone.
Of course, I don’t mean to block good things from my mind—I will remember them again one day, years from now, when it doesn’t matter anymore. But for now, I just need that clarity of me and nothing to cloud that.
I got a message from a friend in high school today who reminded me of the fun antics we got into—the days before serious relationships, jobs, bills…before that loss of innocence. He said, “I have been reading your posts and following this opportunity life is giving you. I just wanted to say hey and maybe bring you a good memory from younger days!”
Now THAT melted my heart. Those really were the days and I am thankful for those memories. I know life exists before love, but it also exists after a breakup; and that’s an important lesson. Although I may not fully see it yet, this really is an opportunity for me. Not only in love, but in my life. I have nothing stopping me from doing anything, going anywhere, and making my life the one that I’ve always dreamt of. If that means I get a great man to join me on the journey, then that will be the icing on the cake.
Speaking of cake, I’ve got a birthday outing to prepare for (not mine, thank all that is holy)! May all the single ladies have a perfect Friday evening—don’t forget to dress the part.
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