#tb: write that letter down.
The following was written in 2010; nothing has been changed. Like what you’ve read? Enjoy my #tb (throwback) blog series as I count down the days until my second book, How to Make Lemonade, is released on December 2nd!
DAY 13: WRITE THAT LETTER DOWN
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Throughout this process, two things have been helping me—1. Amy Winehouse albums (no, I will not let my ex ruin The Winehouse for me. Blast!), and 2. Your letters, notes, comments, e-mails, etc.
Seriously, you guys are coming out of the woodwork to wish me well, and it means the world to me! Some of you, I haven’t heard from in ages, others I talk to regularly, but it feels so flattering to know so many of you are reading my words…and liking them just a little. Who knew you all would love to watch me wallow in my pitiful love life?—Just kidding, I love you all!
Today’s task involves letters of a different kind. Today, I was to write a letter to my best friend—a real letter written with a feather pen, handmade paper, and delivered by horse (a white horse with Gavin DeGraw in the saddle). Yee-haw!
No, seriously. Well, I am lucky enough to have TWO best friends…don’t even get me started on that argument about who is the best, and you can’t have two besties, because I do…they are both wonderful in their own ways.
Both of them live in Indiana. They both made it down here to meet my ex at one time or another. And they both are into voodoo dolls (see what I did there?). Oddly, both of them have nicknames—Boobie and Button. Why wasn’t I so blessed as to have a “B” nickname? Oh right, I do.
Anyway, so today I wrote two letters. And ladies, my hands hurt—the trouble of a writer.
Obviously, I can’t share my letters entirely…or else there’s be no fun when my ladies get them in the mail (or you know, when Gavin DeGraw comes-a-trotting). But I guess I can share a few snippets of them here, for your reading enjoyment.
“I really just wanted to thank you for being here for me during this breakup. I may seem incredibly strong most of the time, but I am thankful I have you there to catch me in the dark times—even if it is 3 am!”
“Although both of us have lead very different dating lives, I truly admire your tenacity in love.”
“I guess it just goes to show how much we really don’t know about our futures—everything can change in an instant. Our jobs may take us places we could have never guessed and we’ll meet people we could’ve never seen coming. That’s the crazy thing about life, right?—it’s unpredictable!”
“I am scared to face the baggage that will come along with it. I already have baggage that I’m dealing with from years prior…it’s like, not only do I have to worry about being ignored and left, but I worry how will I know if he feels the same way I do? I think that’s an 80s song…”
“Like I’ve always said, with each relationship that fails, it’s another step closer to the one that will succeed.”
One of my besties is still single—we often joke that we have parallel lives. We are usually going through family issues or relationship drama at the same time; I am a fan of us getting married on the same day, for sure! My other bestie is married, and I love going to her for advice and for a good laugh! Both girls I trust with anything, and they’ve been there for me through it all. I am blessed with amazing friends, who I expect a lot out of, and I expect nothing less from a boyfriend. So there!
To my girlfriends, and everyone that has sent me messages, and of course, even the silent readers, thank you!
Posted on November 19, 2013, in The Ingredients and tagged breakup guide, breakups, dating, drinking, ex boyfriends, family, first date, heartbreak, Holly A. Phillips, How to Make Lemonade, life, love, relationships, sex, single, The Bitter Lemon, The Frisky. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.