Earlier this month, online dating website OkCupid announced that it was adding a new feature for its users.
They are letting their premium (the ones who pay) users filter their potential matches by body type.
In order to activate this feature, users will have to pay about $10 per month. After they pay, they will only see the potential matches that meet the physical body type they are looking for.
Keep in mind, it’s the user’s choice if they want to reveal their body type to viewers. I’ve never used OkCupid, but when I used Match, we had options such as “Athletic” “Average” “Curvy,” etc.
I picked “Average” and many of my guy friends told me that description didn’t fit the way my body looked. I wasn’t sure it did either, but I wouldn’t describe myself as athletic or curvy, either.
If someone was paying just to see “athletic” body types, then we would never meet.
I initially saw the article on my Twitter (@OrangeJulius7) feed from Business Insider.
A few weeks later, I found another article on The Frisky, also discussing OkCupid: “Here’s What Happens When You Make an OkCupid Profile That’s Actually Honest.”
Brooklyn artist Jessica Prusa wanted to find out what would happen if she presented her rawest thoughts and emotions to complete strangers (hmm…been there, done that).
So, she created an OkCupid profile her deepest thoughts, fears, and her desire for a “large, uncircumsized penis.” Here are some other snippets from her profile:
- “I waver between over confidence and crippling insecurity, depending on who I’m communicating with and if I think that person is more intelligent, cultured or artistically talented than I am or have the potential to be.”
- “I’m trying really hard to find something I care about enough to commit to entirely … I’m also trying really hard to blend into American life again and catch up to my contemporaries who are light years ahead of me in terms of careers, connections, salaries and living standards.”
Instead of getting mean, or even cool messages, Jessica’s responses were more “we-feel-sorry-for-you” in tone. Ouch.
I’d like to think that the profile I posted of myself on Match was honest—sure, I suppose I put my best self out there, with none of my flaws.
And so, if our online dating profiles aren’t such an honest slice of our lives (whether out of fear of elimination by body type or general rejection); is it a crime or is it merely a dating application?