Single by choice.
One of the best parts of my job as a journalist is meeting so many different, and interesting, people. With each interview I conduct, I’m reminded of the motto I live by: Everyone has a story to tell.
A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of sitting down with a local gentleman who was nominated by his college classmate for Cosmopolitan’s Hottest Bachelor competition. To be honest, I expected our meeting to be quick. I assumed he would be a conceited jerk.
Boy was I wrong.
Ryan turned out to be kind and genuine; he was honored by the outpouring of support he’d received because of the contest. I was shocked that this successful, handsome man was indeed single.
For my article, I had to ask him the million dollar question: Why are you single?
The answer he gave me was priceless.
“In a backward way, I think not looking provides an opportunity to meet someone. If you’re always looking, you’re willing to settle.”
Story aside, it was the answer I’ve been waiting for.
As a single person, being asked why you’re single is tough. It’s not really a compliment when someone says, “Wow, you’ve really got a lot going for you, so…why are you single?” It passively implies that something is wrong with you, but since it’s not physical or resume-builders, it clearly means you’re crazy.
I’d never had a good answer to that question—until Ryan gave me one.
I’m single because I’m waiting for the one. I’m waiting for that romance I’ve dreamed of.
It’s good to know I’m not alone in my thinking.
So, as much as I loved meeting Ryan to share his story, I was also thankful because I learned a little something about myself, too. In return, Ryan got what he deserved two weeks later—he won the Hottest Bachelor contest.
Refusing to settle? Now that’s hot.
Read the rest of Ryan’s story here.
Posted on October 21, 2012, in The Ingredients and tagged college, college life, dating, Holly A. Phillips, love, relationships, single, The Bitter Lemon, twenty-something. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.