A few weeks ago, I was driving to work, when I heard a statistic on the radio:
73% of couples say they didn’t end up with their true love.
When I dig a little deeper (ahem, did some Googling), I found a few articles dedicated to this newfound number, including one from Cosmopolitan.
According to the article, these couples are just “making do” with their current partner, even though it’s not their true love.
It also said that only 1 in 7 adults believe that their significant other (not married) is “the one.”
In the article, experts say this could be due to the fact that when we get in new relationships, we are flooded with all kinds of emotions and hormones that tell us this person is perfect. As time wears on, these feelings tend to fade, giving us the “grass is greener syndrome.”
Makes sense. But there’s more:
But there could be another (big) reason that couples who aren’t head-over-heels in love are staying together: they’ve got “settle syndrome”, where they stay with someone because they don’t think they’re capable of finding anyone better. Last time we checked, that is SO not a reason to be with a guy! “Some couples who aren’t in love can actually talk themselves into being in love because they’d rather be with ‘someone’ than ‘no-one’. Or they tell themselves that fighting is normal in a relationship,” says Isiah.
Although it wasn’t the happiest article to get through, it solidified a lot of thoughts I’ve had running through my mind when it comes to relationships.
I’ve always dreamed of this crazy-in-love-head-over-heels relationship…and although I’ve been in love many times; it’s never been quite like that.
And yes, I know, I shouldn’t set myself up for something that might not happen…or should I? What’s so wrong with hoping for it?
“Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.”