Last weekend I saw (hottie) Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s movie, Don Jon.
Watch the preview:
The flick is about a guy named Jon, who loves his family, friends, church, working out…and watching porn.
In fact, he likes watching porn so much, he says he likes it more than actual sex…with a human.
Seems a little, wacky, right?
Well, he says he enjoys the sex he sees in the videos more than the sex he’s had (which seems to have been meaningless); it’s a fantasy he compares to the romcoms most females obsess over—we’re all lusting over something that probably isn’t going to happen.
But isn’t that what hope is all about?
Why else would I insist on watching The Lucky One when I’m feeling low? I’ll give you a hint:
Yum.
I was so excited to see The lucky One that I skipped all the way to the midnight premier. I sat beside a couple (I would never make a boyfriend see a romcom), and the boyfriend was getting a kick out of watching his girlfriend and mine’s faces as star Zac Efron did the heavy lifting and his muscles rippled perfectly.
“You know, those bags of dog food aren’t really that heavy,” he leaned over and said to me.
Maybe it was just a fantasy.
One of my girlfriends told me she enjoys watching romcoms because it gives her hope that a guy “like that” is out there, somewhere.
Maybe…or are we setting ourselves up for failure?
In Don Jon, Jon falls in love, but still can’t seem to have the sex he fantasizes about. I’ve actually heard this story in real life; and honestly, if you can’t really get intimate with someone, is it really the love you’ve been waiting for?
I won’t spoil the end of the movie for you—trust me, it’s different from you might expect—but I do think there’s something to be said about fantasy.
Of course, we don’t want to reside in fantasy land; but I’m cool with an escape every now and then.
Besides, what else do we have to look forward to?
“In the blink of an eye, something happens by chance—when you least expect it—sets you on a course that you never planned, into a future you never imagined.”
—The Lucky One
The Bitter Lemon 
The thing about most fiction is that most of it is POSSIBLE, it could happen and probably does happen to some people, but it’s not very likely to happen to most of us. It’s like being in a plane crash or meeting the President, it could happen but it probably won’t, and if you spend your life waiting for it to happen you’ll probably be disappointed. That doesn’t mean that you won’t find love, just that it may not be as perfect as it is in the movies.