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Already thinkin’ ’bout fall fashion…

That’s right, forget summer (not really), ’cause I’ve got fall fashion on the brain. I’m totally blaming “The Real Housewives of New York” for this. Did you guys see last week’s episode?

If not, Bethenny threw a birthday party for herself at her fabulous Hampton’s home (so jealous) and it was an outdoor BBQ, complete with Skinny Girl Moscow mules and roaring bonfires. Everyone was in their sweaters and Joan of Arctic Boots…and it was simply lovely!

Need.

Need.

Fall is definitely, DEFINITELY my favorite season, and I have always loved fall fashion. So, of course I cannot stop thinking about this red and white flannel jacket Bethenny was wearing at the party.

After searching for it online for hours, I found out it’s from Forever 21, but of course, these episodes were taped last fall, so I couldn’t find it anywhere online to actually purchase it. But fear not, because I will have my eyes peeled for something similar from now until October.

In a later part of the episode, Bethenny and Carol arrive for Brunch, and Bethenny is looking so chic in her over-sized white sweater and knee-high moccasins. I saw that style of boot a lot when I was working in the mall last fall, but they look way cuter on Bethenny than anyone else I saw.

I found a pair that I love, but of course, they’re from Free People, and a mere $400. When I have nothing else to spend my money on, I’ll be traipsing around Austin in these boots, with a margarita in one hand and the other arm reaching for a hot dude with a man bun.

Dream big, y’all.

I already bought the red and navy Buffalo Checked loafers (pictured above); they were on sale for $30 (down from $110) at J-Crew, and I cannot wait to slip these babies on (I mean, aside from wearing them around my apartment while dancing to James Bay).

Don’t get me wrong, I love summer – strictly for the white jeans of course, but fall looks are just so…cool and cozy.

In other news, it was brought to my coworkers’ attention earlier this week that whenever they plan after-work events, I do not attend.

I’m not doing this to be mean, but the truth is, I’m becoming less and less a social person as I get older. And I’m not even mad about it. The other thing is, there are lots of things I like to do after work that does not involve work folk.

Right now, I go to a dance class right after work Monday-Thursday. And next week, my blog class kicks off, so I’ll have that one night each week. I also like to read, blog, and sometimes I have freelance work to complete.

A coworker told me it wasn’t healthy that I was so busy; why don’t I just “relax” after work? But the thing is, going to dance class or reading a book ARE relaxing to me. Those are the things I want to be doing, and they help me relieve stress from my very challenging job.

Maybe there will be one day when my day job fulfills most of the things I’m looking for in life. But that day is not today, and it’s not tomorrow, and until then, I’ll be spending my evening hours as I please (lately it means plugging my laptop in on the balcony and sitting beside a citronella candle while I blog and listen to podcasts).

So, speaking of freelance work, I need help writing a good pitch letter. Are any of my readers good at this? If so, is there any way you could send me some pointers or examples that have worked? I’ve got ideas up my sleeve and I’m ready to pitch to some popular online magazines. So, please send any tips, tricks, cheap ploys, or examples to me at holly@thebitterlemon.com

Thanks y’all – now, onto that fall countdown!

Boyfriend Recipe: Zesty (baked) Chicken Wings.

I never really considered myself as someone who was “into fitness.” That is, until I dated my last boyfriend, who didn’t give a flying fuck about being healthy or fit.

When it came to me needing time away from him to hit the gym, he would get angry. If I told him I was cooking turkey tacos, he groaned, because he didn’t appreciate healthy eats. However, I couldn’t eat his diet of Buffalo Wild Wings and pizza all the time, unless I wanted to be as big as a house.

So I tried to make things he liked to eat, but make them healthier. While my efforts went unnoticed (he was sleeping with a fat girl on the side), I’m happy to share my recipe with you, assuming your boyfriend gives a damn.

I made Bethenny Frankel’s Zesty Baked Chicken Wings from her book, The SkinnyGirl Dish. I nixed the bread crumbs, and they were still delicious, but here’s Bethenny’s recipe:

  • 3 tb olive oil
  • 1 tb dijon mustard
  • Dash of cayenne pepper
  • 1 ts minced garlic
  • 1/2 ts salt
  • 1/2 ts pepper
  • 1 tb lemon juice
  • 1/2 ts lemon zest
  • 16 chicken wings, halved at joint with tips removed
  • 1 c freshly grated parmesan
  • 1 1/2 c whole wheat bread crumbs

Combine the olive oil, mustard, cayenne, garlic, salt, pepper, lemon juice, and zest in a bowl until well-combined. Pour the marinade over the wings in a Ziplock bag and let them sit in the fridge for at least 30 minutes (up to 4 hours).

In a separate bowl, combine the bread crumbs, parmesan, and parsley. When the wings are done marinating, coat them in the breadcrumb mixture and place on a pan. Bake at 425 degrees for about 30 minutes, rotating halfway through.

I made these with baked onion rings, and everything tasted delicious!

 

A Place of Yes (part II).

I just finished reading “A Place of Yes” by Bethenny Frankel.

I was taking my time with this one, because it has so many great takeaway lessons and I often took lots of notes while reading it.

If you are a Bethenny fan already, I don’t need to explain to you how amazing she is as a woman, a businessperson, a mother, a wife, and now, a writer. She’s got her hands in all the pots, but for all the right reasons, and it works.

In “A Place of Yes,” Frankel shares her secrets as to how she overcame a tough childhood, a rocky adulthood, and even the ins and outs of previous business failures and her persona as the runaway bride.

She breaks the book down into 10 rules to live by, or as she says, 10 rules to living the life you dream:

1. Break the chain. You don’t have to carry baggage from the past; take the good and leave the bad.

2. Find your truth. Listen and do only what’s right for you.

3. Act on it. Don’t wait, don’t sit, don’t put off, just DO.

4. Everything’s your business. Do everything like it’s your job.

5. All roads lead to Rome. Stay focused, work hard, and you’ll end up where you need to.

6. Go for yours. Put yourself first, achieve your goals for you.

7. Separate from the pack. Don’t follow the crown, stand up for your truth.

8. Own it. Even when it’s difficult, admit it, own up to your actions.

9. Come together. Get yourself right first, then connect with others (who deserve you).

10. Celebrate! Drop the worries, and celebrate the good times.

In reading this book, I found I could relate to Frankel and use her rules to help me get over my past and tear through my future with drive and success. Whether dating woes, childhood baggage, or dead-end careers are holding you back, I recommend this book to you! It was such an inspiration to me and I hope you find it to be also.

A Place of Yes.

The best qualities in you have always been there, but when you get stuck in the past and make your pain your identity, then that’s what you become.

β€”Bethenny Frankel, “A Place of Yes”