“You like that?” he whispered into my ear. It was something he — a guy I was seeing — liked saying as we fooled around.
If there’s one thing I’m terrible at in bed, it’s talking dirty (ask me to write dirty, not talk).
But later, over a tray of raw oysters, he asked me if I liked receiving oral sex.
Um, yes. Who doesn’t?
He was silent on the matter, piling on ridiculous amounts of horseradish before he ate each oyster.
“Why, is that your thing?” I asked, now curious. If you’re a woman who loves receiving oral sex, you dream of a man that’s really into it.
“No,” he said. “I enjoy doing it, but it’s not my thing.”
What was his thing? Tossing salad.
Before him, I’d never had anyone travel in that direction. While I didn’t mind it, it wasn’t something I found pleasurable.
Let’s face it, it’s a little awkward — his face was in my ass. There’s no 69-esque position that allows anything to be done to the other person. And all of the sudden, I felt self-conscious about the sitation back there. Should I wax? Was it fresh-enough for this activity?
Most importantly, I was never planning on returning the favor (FYI, it never became an issue).
It got me thinking about fetishes. Sure, there are some I can’t relate to, such as a foot fetish or BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism, and masochism). According to an article on TheRichest.com, BDSM is the number one sexual fetish (Thanks, “50 Shades”).
Honestly, I don’t think I have a fetish. I have a fantasy (going at it against a wall) that’s never become reality, but never a fetish.
I will admit that I do have a thing for guys in baseball hats, and if a guy has any talent with a guitar, I’ll pretty much be his for life. But neither of these tiny obsessions have made their way into my sex life.
After some light Googling, it became clear to me that there’s no real answer as to why people have fetishes, or what causes them.
There are theories, however, about certain fetishes reminding the brain of childhood, such as a spanking fetish (I’m into it) or the “adult baby” thing (not hot).
But if there’s no understood psychological trace to a fetish, then how do people go about discovering them?
Was my guy just simply really obsessed with asses — seemed to be the case — that one day he decided to go ahead and lick one, excessively?
Don’t knock it, ‘til you try it, right?
I don’t need a list of rules or words to get through a session in the sack. There’s no trunk full of goodies (no pun intended) in my bedroom.
Maybe I’m just simple, but so far, sex is pretty fantastic all on its own.
Friday evening marked the start of spring and after this winter, I know a lot of people across the country have been celebrating the coming of warmer weather.
As I mentioned yesterday, spring-ish weather in Louisiana doesn’t last long. But it’s the mark of a fantastic season that means baseball, crawfish, and all kinds of festivals. It’s a fantastic time to be here!
Over the weekend, I joined my friends for the annual Zapp’s Beerfest, perhaps one of my favorite events of the year — 2.5 hours of unlimited drinking and all-you-can-eat Zapp’s chips. Not to mention the abundance of delicious home-brews (I had a banana split porter that was delicious).
It was a cool, overcast day, complete with a shower, but not to worry because I was stomping the grounds with my new rubber boots (pictured above). It’s amazing that I’ve lived in the South for more than ten years and just now got some boots worthy of puddle-stompin’. They kept my feet nice and dry.
I’ve mentioned before how I’m more likely to set goals for myself around my birthday (in July) than I am around the start of a new calendar year. This year, I’m feeling pretty excited about spring. It’s a season of renewal and fresh, new ideas.
With each day, I’m moving closer and closer to making my own business a reality. I’m getting new clients, drafting business proposals and plans, having meetings, listening to podcasts, doing research… It’s a lot of work, but it feels right.
There’s a lot (a TON) of learning in this process, and it’s not always easy. I had a meeting a few weeks ago with a fellow creative and he was telling me about how vulnerable we all are — every time we craft something and send it, we are being judged. Most of the time, I don’t think of it in that way, but there’s definitely some truth to it.
If you’re following me on Twitter, you definitely know that last week, I spent almost four days Tweeting my first book, “How I Fell: Love, Lies & Cocktails,” 140 characters at a time. I’ll be honest, I didn’t think it all the way through in that I had no idea it would take me so long.
I spent a majority of the week staying up, typing. Not only was I lacking sleep (and living off beer and takeout), reading and remembering about such a terrible part in my life was emotionally draining. So, why did I do it?
I never want to put myself into a box. I don’t want to strap myself into a 9-5 schedule. I don’t want to lose that creative edge. Some of the most successful things that have been done, were successful the first time they were done. I want to use all of the tools I have — my brain, my computer, and free marketing services like Twitter, to get my ideas out there.
The consequences? I thought a few people would be annoyed and unfollow me on Twitter, but instead, I gained quite a few followers (score!). But, I also got a text message from someone I’ve known for 11 years. He told me my Tweets were scary. He said my behavior was scaring him and it would be best if we never talked again.
I’ll elaborate more on this and who told me this in a later blog post, but the gist of it is: I may not always been understood. And some of the most successful people aren’t understood. As a writer, most of my work is done alone. I spend a lot of time at my desk, and a lot of my work is introspective.
As sad as I was to lose this “friend,” I know that I can only afford to surround myself with people who support me. That does not mean they agree with everything I say or do. It means they won’t drop off the face of the earth when I think of something out-of-the-box.
In the last month, I’ve spent a lot time wondering if this life, this career will stand in the way of me ever finding love. But, instead of worrying about it, I’m just going to roll with it. I can’t change my brain to please the world.
And so, cheers to spring — bring on the new beginnings. I sure could use some fresh ideas (and flowers) ’round these parts!
Spring is here… and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready for the beach! Living in Louisiana, “Spring” lasts about a week before we’re in the thick of the summer heat and humidity. What does this mean for my hair? It means I shouldn’t waste time with the straightener.
Instead, I’ve been researching other cute ways to wear my hair and still look decent. One fun way to embrace the moisture in the air? Beach hair/waves/styles!
Beach hair is something coveted, probably because it’s something that happens in nature — a mix of the salt water in the air at the beach, mixed with the sun’s heat — no wonder we want to recreate it as much as possible.
After searching online, turns out there’s tons of different ways to create this look at home, including lots of different products to mimic the texture. Here are some options you can try:
- Bumble and Bumble Surf Spray — One 4-ounce bottle of hair styling spray; Seaweed extract helps retain moisture for roughed-looking styles that aren’t dry; Get that sexy, salty, windblown, after-beach look even if you’re miles from the beach; Offers plenty of hold and a clean, matte finish; Imparts extra texture, volume, and a matte finish for loose, sexy styles.
- Not Your Mother’s Beach Babe Texturizing Sea Salt Spray — It adds sexy, tousled waves and a light matte finish to any hair type. Infused with natural dead see salt and sea kelp this salon formula has you and your hair on the boardwalk all year long.
- John Frieda Beach Blonde Sea Waves Sea Salt Spray — Creates or enhances natural waves, and increases grip and texture for a ropey, ripple effect that is fit for everyday beachy style; Sea-salt infused styling spray provides all over full body designed to deliver touchable texture; Provides a versatile look that can be worn with any hair length or texture and the refreshing summer scents evoke emotions of being at the beach.
You can also use mousse, hairspray, or you can even create your OWN sea salt spray at home. There are various recipes out there (thanks, Google), but here’s one from Elle magazine I thought looked great.
Now, how to get the look? There’s also tons of different ways you can go about it, and the biggest factor is probably your hair type (aside from the overall look you’re trying to achieve). Here’s a few different methods.
- Seventeen Magazine: Beach waves for four different types of hair (straight, relaxed, curly, wavy)
- Get beach hair without heat — Twisting & Braiding
Recently, I’ve simply washed my hair, let it air dry overnight, and used a combination of hairspray and Instant Texture Mist from Living Proof. I do have wavy hair in the back, but the sides are pretty limp, so I’m still working on this…
Another way you could aid your beach hair style is by braiding! Check out these 10 braids you can DIY.
What easy styles are you looking forward to this summer? Tried the beach hair thing? Let me know what works and what doesn’t work!
It’s Friday! This week has been a weird one, that’s for certain, but I’ll explain why on another day. Today, all that matters is, it’s Friday, it’s the official start of spring, I’m wearing a pair of mint jeans that I got from Goodwill for $6, and we’re only 10 days away from the Justin Bieber ROAST.
Who’s excited? This girl!
In preparation for the viewing of The Roast, I spritzed on a little bit of Justin Bieber’s The Key. Out of all of Bieber’s scents for women, this one is probably my favorite, as it’s got an heir of sophistication about it. Don’t mind if I do.
According to Fragrantica, “The third fragrance from pop singer Justin Bieber, The Key, coming out in July 2013, is allegedly more ‘mature’ compared to its predecessors Someday from 2011 and Girlfriend from 2012.
The official description of this perfume uses epithets such as energetic, sexy and refreshing, while the composition is announced as a luminous floral-fruity-musk. It opens with a splash of juicy fruit with a sheer bouquet blooming in the heart. Its creamy base combines sensual musk, exotic woods and vanilla tones.
Justin chose the key motif for this perfume because of its symbolism, trying to tell his fans to always believe in their dreams.”
I sense a little hostility from the writers at Fragrantica! Hissss…. Regardless, the Justin Bieber Roast premiers on Comedy Central, Monday, March 30.
In other news, yesterday was the premier of the PAPER TOWNS movie trailer! What? So excited. Based off John Green’s best-selling novel, Paper Towns is the story of a girl. A very mysterious girl. You should read the book. And then see the movie. Here’s the trailer:
Not really sure how I’m going to stand waiting until July 24 to see it, buuuut… yeah. Anyway, I hope you all have a fantastical weekend. I’m certainly looking forward to it. See you next week!
I don’t know about you, but this week has been kinda rough — maybe it’s the weather, maybe it’s the sheer fact that my most recent crush is dead to me (I’m currently looking for a new one), or perhaps it’s that damn Daylight Savings Time coming up, but in any case, I’m so glad it’s the weekend!
I’ve been covering the classic perfume scents lately, so I wanted to spice things up by featuring Betsey Johnson and her namesake perfume, Betsey Johnson.
If you know anything about this designer, you know she’s one of those folks who is SO creative, she barely fits into any category. While some of her jewelry and clothing items are too much for my personal style, some of it is really cute.
But, this perfume. I’ve worn it for years! It’s got an incredibly warm, rich scent that I absolutely love.
As described by Fragrantica, “In 2006 she launches her first fragrance, Betsey Johnson, a real pop art luxury. The outer package is decorated with the details which reflect her style, leopard print and roses, while the bottle is accentuated with a very unusual and attention-drawing top. The unusual bottle was designed by Colorful Licences.
Betsey Johnson fragrance was created by two noses, Bernard Blanc and Mathilde Bijaoui. They gave it a sparkling and joyful opening, combining the notes of grapefruit, pear, black currant and tangerine. The middle notes unite the floral and fruity accords of freesia, lily of the valley and red apple, while the base bring cedarwood, sandalwood, praline, amber and musks.”
Now you can see why I love it so much! At first whiff, it IS a little overwhelming, but it really is fantastic!
I hope you all have a great Friday, and a perfect weekend. Is anyone watching Secrets and Lies (featuring hottie Ryan Phillippe)? I caught the premier this week and I am hooked! It’s on Sundays at 9/8 on ABC. Hope to see you on Twitter!