As I write this, I’m sitting in Native Cafe — one of my favorite spots along the Gulf, right in Pensacola Beach (I just ordered a stack of peanut butter pancakes, if that helps at all).
This morning, I had to say goodbye to my two best friends, and goodbye to a vacation we’ve been looking forward to for a better half of the year. The other ladies had to head out earlier than me, since they live in Indiana and I’ve got a shorter (4 hour) drive to get back home.
Pensacola Beach holds a special place in my heart — while it’s not an expensive place to visit, it’s not home to many fancy restaurants, it’s really just a beautiful beach… and it’s where my friend and I spent weeks every summer, growing up, and now, as adults.
And so, last night, we capped off our long weekend with something I’ve always wanted to do — host a beach bonfire. Believe it or not, it took a lot of planning, and even some paperwork (for the permit)… we pulled it off and were able to sit around a fire, with waves in the background, and s’mores on-hand.
And while I do love the beach, and I love being away from my work-life, what I love most is knowing that I’ve got people in my life to share these moments with. The situation isn’t always ideal — I wish I lived closer — but we’ve made it work, even if it involves day-long drives on someone’s end.
There’s not a lot of people that I know that would do it.
And so, cheers to the summer — it’s been adventurous, and really, really great!
I buy just about everything on Amazon.com. Cat food, clothes, books, gifts, protein powder, makeup — I don’t know about you, but with the bargains, plus free shipping over $35, shopping in the store just isn’t worth it to me…especially with Baton Rouge traffic.
So, I thought, wow I love Amazon… but do I love it enough to get married in it?
And no, I’m not getting married. I probably won’t be married for another 36 years.
Any of my men readers might think I’m crazy for thinking about my wedding pre-boyfriend, but I can’t help it — I’ve warned you all that I’ve got a wild imagination.
So, Amazon.com has everything, but do they have everything for a wedding day? That’s what I went hunting for. This is what I found…
For starters, I’ll need a ring (we’re already pretending that I have a boyfriend who reads my mind and gets me the ring I want), and I’ve wanted a canary diamond since I was a little girl. But everyone knows that if you go for the colored diamond, it’s got to be big.
My jaw dropped when I saw this 3 carat Canary Yellow Round Diamond Engagement Ring from Chance Diamonds. The Canary stone is 1c, while the white diamonds surrounding it makeup the other 2 carats. So gorgeous!
Here is what the description says, “Striking design with split-shank, this diamond engagement features a 1.0ct very well cut Canary Yellow center stone, and is set with over two hundred brilliant round side stones. Stunning when worn, this 3.0 ct tw beauty is sheer elegance. She will absolutely melt when she sees this ring, & she’ll truly be the envy of all her friends. We fabricate this ring in our own workshops to our exacting specifications, carefully choosing each stone to be set by our skilled diamond setters. The shank as shown is 14k white gold, with your choice of gold colors and upgrades available as well…“
I actually saw several rings that I liked (and might consider purchasing for myself), including a Cognac diamond, and several rose gold rings (I am always on the lookout for something different).
As for a dress, well I have probably thought of about 25 different styles that I’d wear over the years. It changes often. It also depends on the guy, of course, and the kind of wedding. I really want to get married in Vegas, and if that happens then I NEED a gold sequined gown.
I also think it would be cool to get married at a vineyard, and the dress I picked today would be pretty for that. But I have always wanted my wedding to be fitting to me and my groom-to-be, so perhaps we’d be married somewhere meaningful to us (like Montana, if it’s John Mayer…).
I like the simple elegance of this one, despite the straight hem across the top. But I love how it was styled with the short veil and the sexy fingerless gloves. BLOOP!
The shoes pretty much fall under my same thoughts as the dress — the shoes depend on the dress and the location. However, I’ve always loved it when brides choose their shoes to be their “something blue.”
I chose these Badgley Mischka pumps, because I love the open sides and the rhinestone detail over the toe. While I love the blue, these also come in a gorgeous taupe that would be beautiful for a wedding, or hell, any day!
And while yes, I realize there is much more to planning a wedding than just browsing for the ring, the dress, and a pair of shoes online, it’s pretty cool that you COULD one-stop shop it, and for a pretty affordable price, if I might add.
I may never have the chance to get married, but if I do (teeheeeee), I might have to look on Amazon.com first!
We use all sorts of tools — from horoscopes and compatibility tests (Which Harry Potter character are you?) to discover what our perfect match is going to look like. Does it work? Perhaps, but I’m still trying to figure it out.
At work, my coworkers and I completed a Strengths Finder test to determine our top five strengths. Not only were we required to discover our strengths and share them with others, we were also asked to post our results on our office door, so that others can learn how to better work with us. I’m not kidding.
In case you’re curious, here are my top five strengths: 1. Strategic (seeing patterns), 2. Responsibility (taking psychological ownership), 3. Futuristic (fascinated by the future), 4. Focus (guided by a clear destination), 5. Input (likes to add information to “archives”).
Basically, I’m awesome.
While I don’t know if “finding my strengths” helped me or my coworkers when it comes to my job, it’s always interesting to find out more about yourself, and those around you. One of the more popular tests that can explain your personality is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). As it is described on their website:
The purpose of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®) personality inventory is to make the theory of psychological types described by C. G. Jung understandable and useful in people’s lives. The essence of the theory is that much seemingly random variation in the behavior is actually quite orderly and consistent, being due to basic differences in the ways individuals prefer to use their perception and judgment.
Once you take the test, you’re given a set of four letters that help describe your personality. I’ve taken the test several times and I’m a clear INTJ. Here’s what that means:
Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.
So what do personality tests have to do with dating? Well, once you’ve pegged yourself with a set of letters or numbers, or even aligned yourself with certain characteristics, there’s always going to be another set of traits that complements yours — the question becomes, does that make for a perfect relationship?
I will always think that certain traits do complement one another; though I’m not sold on the whole “opposites attract” thing. I found this website called Mass Match, and this is what it said about my Myers-Briggs compatibility:
- Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, INTJ, ISTP, ENTJ
- Possible types for a relationship: INTP, INFJ, INFP, ENFP
- Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTP, ESFP, ISFP, ENTP, INFP, ENFJ
- Percentage of the US population: 3-4%
I was shocked to see that I could match with another INTJ, but equally saddened to see that only 3-4% of the US is INTJ. HOW THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO FIND A MATCH? Maybe that’s why I’m still single…
Ugh. Getting the news about an ex getting married (especially when you’re still single) can be a bitch. I can’t speak for everyone, but even when I didn’t have feelings for the person anymore, it’s still rough news to get.
All of my exes are married, except my most recent (although he might be, who knows?). My very first boyfriend, Adam, was also the first one to get married. He proudly married the woman that he cheated on me with — lucky her, right?
Even though it had been years since we dated, I was devastated when I got the news. He was my best friend in high school, before we finally dated in college. He was my first love, and I definitely pictured us walking down the aisle. It was difficult for me to picture him sharing that moment with anyone else.
But he did, and I of course, stalked all of the photos online when I was ready. And as hard as it is for me to admit it, the pictures were beautiful.
After that initial pain, other exes that got married hurt me less. I don’t know if it’s because I cared less about them, or because I was older, and now it seems like everyone is getting married.
A guy I dated for years got engaged just a few months after we broke up — and my jaw hit my office floor when I got the news (I saw it on Facebook and then Googled it). Not only did I find out he’d been cheating on me for years, but now he was getting married. I wasn’t jealous — the poor girl was marrying an asshole.
But I did feel like a failure. I really wanted to marry him when we were together, and he kept telling me marriage wasn’t in his plan. Little did I know that it was in his plan, he even had a ring, but the plan didn’t involve me. I felt like an idiot.
So what do you do when you find out an ex is getting married and you’re pissed? The first thing you should do is figure out why you’re upset. Did you really want to marry him? Was he truly the right guy for you (hint: he wasn’t)? Or are you actually mad that he’s happy and you’re not (he’s not really that happy)? Are you worried you’ll never get married or find love?
Chances are, you’re upset at something that has very little, or nothing to do with your ex. Now is the time to figure out what it is and how to change it. In the meantime, it’s totally okay to grab a bottle of wine (or three) and host a chick flick marathon and/or burn all remaining photos of him you’ve got stashed under your bed.
Living well is the best revenge.
If you’re learning anything about me, it’s that I LOVE a blog series. So why not start another one? This series is all about lip color, because I don’t wear enough of it, and I’m really trying to branch out.
So in the spirit of people’s obsession with Fifty Shades of Grey and the movie coming out (at some point), I’m doing my own version of Fifty Shades… of pink lip color. I’ve already showed you the ins and outs of rockin’ the red lip, so I’m going back to one of my favorite lip shades, and that’s pink (I love dark purple gloss, too).
And, as of now, I’m purchasing all of these colors myself — so I will be honest. Now, onto the lip color! Shade one is “Pink Cashmere,” by L’Oreal Paris. It’s #171 in the L’Oreal Colour Riche selection, also categorized as Colour Caresse Lipstick.
According to Amazon:
- L’Oreal Paris #1 best-selling lipstick
- Formulated with revolutionary Lightfeel System to deliver a feather-light finish without being sticky or heavy
- Vibrantly sheer color and conditioned lips
I will agree that it’s light, and smooth. However, I don’t think it’s “sheer.” The color is vibrant. One of the reviewers on Amazon described it as “Barbie pink,” and I’d agree with that.
It is easy to apply, and I like that the color on the outside of the tube is very similar to the actual color that ends up on your lip. I purchased this tube at Big Lots for $4, and it looks like the average price is around $7.
Truthfully, I’m not if this shade looks great on me. I’m not going to ditch it, but it might be too bright to be my favorite. This is why we keep on searching!